SexyAds: Dating Articles
Looking In on Another’s Relationship
July 26th, 2008
08:59 PM
How can anyone say what’s right and wrong between two people within a relationship? Isn’t that reserved for the two people who are involved in it?

As I grow older, this is something that I find myself reminding myself of often. It’s a hard thing to remember sometimes and an even harder thing not... [more]
Unexpected Sensuality
July 23rd, 2008
08:58 PM
When one starts internet dating, there is always a surprise around the corner somewhere. Either the person you are to going to meet isn’t going to be anything like they represented themselves to be (which happens sometimes); or they are exactly like they said they were going to be (which can be... [more]
When The Sparks Not There
July 20th, 2008
08:57 PM
Have you ever enjoyed a correspondence with someone that had weaved through it, sensual undertones that left you feeling warm and tingling and in anticipation of his emails-only to find that once you met him in person and got to finally kiss him, that there was no spark there?
I remember I had... [more]
The Pluses of Personals
July 16th, 2008
11:46 PM
There are some days when the whole personals thing is a drag. It’s like having a lot of blind dates and by the tenth one, you’re ready to hang up your hat.
How many hours have you yourself spent browsing or searching through pages and pages of men or women? You search, you browse, you send, you... [more]
Giving Yourself A Chance
July 13th, 2008
11:13 PM
So here it is, the weekend is almost upon you and you still haven’t met someone that you feel comfortable enough with to spend any significant amount of time with. Your personal ad has been up and running for a little while now and you’ve responded to everyone who has contacted you.

You thought... [more]
Men Equating Fun as Sex
July 9th, 2008
11:12 PM
Everyone knows that when a guy writes in his profile that he wants some fun or he’s looking for a woman to have some fun with, that he’s not talking about concerts, plays, movies, conversation, going out to dinner, dancing or any of the like. More often than not, the male’s idea of fun in the... [more]
After The First Time
July 6th, 2008
11:04 PM
It was close to six months before I had sex someone whom I’d met through the personals. And having done it, having finally crossed that line, I am glad for the measures I took that were actually my instincts taking over and protecting me.
The man that I had this pleasurable experience with was... [more]
Deserving Your Own Compassion
June 29th, 2008
09:25 PM
I received a disturbing email last night.
It was from a woman who said her husband had contacted me and other women without her knowing about it. As I had sent nothing back but an email addressed to the both of them (it had been signed with both their names) thanking them for introducing... [more]
Let’s Spot The Red Flags
June 26th, 2008
09:23 PM
This morning I was reading about a female who met someone online over a month ago. The relationship moved fast and both she and the man consider themselves to be one another’s “boyfriend” and “girlfriend.” She states that she feels as if she’s known him for all of her life because they talk all the... [more]
The Perception of Beauty
June 23rd, 2008
09:20 PM
It’s interesting, isn’t it? That as we age, our perceptions about what beauty is expands…and someone we might not have found attractive years ago suddenly becomes appealing.
Does this mean we have settled? Or are we merely growing up?
I think it means we are growing up. And I think it’s great... [more]
What Do You Know About Relationships?
June 18th, 2008
11:18 PM
What does everyone know about relationships?
We know we’re supposed to be kind.
We know we’re supposed to be supporting/supportive of our partner.
We know that we’re supposed to be a “we” and not an “I.”
We know we’re supposed to honor our own feelings as much as we respect any others.
We... [more]
Online Daters
June 15th, 2008
11:17 PM
When I first heard about online dating a few years ago, it was just in its infancy and so of course, there were a great many comments, both positive and negative, to be made about it. Now, years later, there still are.
What exactly is an online dater? It’s someone who has centered their focus on... [more]
A Common Misperception in Personals
June 13th, 2008
11:17 PM
This morning in my inbox I received an email from a lovely and sensitive woman I’ve been corresponding with for awhile. She’s been depressed lately and her depression has been intensified by what she perceives as a “lack of solution” through the online personals. I asked her what she meant by... [more]
Can An Online Relationship Be Unhealthy?
June 10th, 2008
11:15 PM
For our entire lives we will be involved in relationships. I’m not just talking about the one-on-one romantic relationship but all the other kinds of relationships that we come across: friendships, relationships with co-workers, family ties. Sometimes there are even relationships that defy... [more]
Let the Woman Set the Pace
June 1st, 2008
11:14 PM
If there’s one suggestion that I could give to men, it would be to tell them: let the woman set the pace of the relationship.

I am aware that many men, often unconsciously, like to perceive women as fantasy creatures who are full of light, beauty, sexuality and understanding; but it’s time to... [more]
Women and Personal Pictures (Part II)
May 30th, 2008
11:12 PM
From Part I:
 “…. .To men, it is all about size and beauty! Some of them won’t even talk to girls who have too small breasts or too large ones or whose butt is too wide or nose is too long ...so, if I have some of these imperfections but I know how to make love, and if I send a picture of a... [more]
Women and Personal Pictures (Part I)
May 28th, 2008
11:09 PM
I read something interesting on a friend’s blog today. He said he’s been reading a lot of women’s complaints of the men who just send them pictures of their cocks in an initial introduction or because these guys think that this is what turns the ladies on. He went on to say that as far as he is... [more]
Just Normal Folks
May 26th, 2008
09:02 PM
Today I met with a new friend whom I shall hereafter rename my “adventure buddy”.
This adventure buddy has tried swinging a couple of times and wanted to know if I was interested at all in participating. Considering that I move as slow as a nun forced to suck a priest’s cock, I told him that... [more]
Who says BBWs’ Aren’t Sexy?
May 24th, 2008
08:58 PM
Hear ye! Hear ye! Be it known forever more that BBWs (big beautiful women) LOVE sex!Now, this isn’t news to any of us BBWs. In fact we’ve known this about ourselves for years. We know we like sex! We now that our appetite for sex is equal to our appetite for good food! Not like sex? Why wouldn’t... [more]
What is Attraction, Anyway?
May 21st, 2008
08:55 PM
“Engage the mind, share some laughter, exchange thoughts...now there’s a recipe for attraction,” is what I wrote to someone in an email just the other night. And if you are a person who is involved in the process of online dating or just trying to establish some sort of relationship with someone... [more]
The Hotel Room (Part II)
May 20th, 2008
12:51 AM
The bar was fun. They each had a Guinness, which she found she enjoyed. They laughed and talked and occasionally their thighs bumped together. Her pink bra strap kept peering out from underneath her pink-and-white top as it kept sliding off her shoulder and she saw him look once or twice. He liked... [more]
The Hotel Room. (Part I)
May 17th, 2008
12:48 AM
The directions had been fairly well written out but she still didn't expect the hotel to loom up so quickly when she took that second left turn. A little startled, she drove to the parking garage where a sullen-faced woman grudgingly let her through. Driving up two levels, she parked her car in a... [more]
A BBW Saturday Night
May 14th, 2008
12:44 AM
The clock read 7:20pm as she sat down to write to her would-be lover. Ach, she deleted that line and started over again, then deleted and re-wrote it yet again. After all, there was a strong possibility that he would be the one she would decide to cross the line with and "bed." "Hmm," she thought... [more]
Men and Emails
May 10th, 2008
11:29 PM
She sits at her computer and clicks on to her email many more times than she’d like to admit. “I see he’s online, but why hasn’t he contacted me yet?” she wonders. After reading and re-reading his emails to her, she has been fairly convinced of his genuineness. He certainly wrote sincerely. It’s... [more]
Spats
May 7th, 2008
11:28 PM
One thing that you never expect to hear, much less experience on a site, is something that I call a “spat.” What is a spat? A spat, as I have experienced it, is something that occurs between two people who have been writing to one another on a somewhat consistent basis (thereby signaling an... [more]
Home Loyalties from a Man’s Point of View
May 4th, 2008
11:26 PM
In my inbox today I received a note from a man who expressed his gratitude at my writing about what he terms “home loyalties.” Since this has come up before, I thought I would take the time to broach this subject-combined from the viewpoint of two married men I’ve come across just this week who... [more]
Ways to Improve Your Personal Ad
April 29th, 2008
01:51 AM
I’ve read several ads where the guys complain that hardly any woman answers them. So naturally I went over to their profiles and starting reading them over. Just in skimming them, I can see where some of the weak links are.

 I’ve found some reasons why these ads may not be generating the... [more]
Can You ‘Date’ Someone Who’s Married?
April 26th, 2008
01:41 AM
So you placed an ad or answered one. You’re married, so is the other person. People have asked me with puzzlement: “Am I now ‘dating?’ Can I be ‘dating’ someone who’s married?”  

I found the question interesting and out of curiosity, I went to the dictionary to look up the specifics on... [more]
Promises, Promises…
April 23rd, 2008
01:38 AM
There's always plenty to do at the beginning of a new year, and although I don't ordinarily like painting myself into a corner by making promises I can't possibly keep, this year seemed ripe for resolutions.
The key word here, is "seemed." I have already scuttled some of my noble intentions, not... [more]
The Older Woman
April 20th, 2008
01:46 AM
I just turned 48 years old. Sounds so … seasoned in one respect, and yet I feel just as immature as ever! In fact, when perusing the ads for a playful paramour of my very own, I have to occasionally slap myself with a dose of reality.
"What must I be thinking, by searching for an age range... [more]
Dating with Intent
April 17th, 2008
01:44 AM
I'm thinking about a man, a big strong man. Maybe several of them, in fact, with Hercules Big Arms and Thundering Thighs and Buns of Steel. Mmmmmm, yes! I want them all at once. Right from the Internet into my house. In the bedroom. This Saturday... [more]
Deceptive Profiles
April 14th, 2008
08:32 PM
Okay. You've placed your first internet ad and now you’re going to meet someone you’ve been conversing with back and forth. The anticipation and eagerness are tumbling together in your stomach: maybe a little nervousness too. His emails have excited you in ways that you hadn’t felt in awhile and... [more]
It's not a job; it's an adventure!
April 11th, 2008
08:30 PM
 I'd put money on it; sooner or later if you're a woman who is dating, the guy is going to ask you The Questions.
"Say, have you ever considered having sex with another woman?"
He can't help it. My theory is that it's gotta be something hard-wired in; and that just maybe, that joke that... [more]
Gentlemen Start Your Engines!
April 9th, 2008
11:25 PM
Most women online have one scenario in common when meeting strangers for sex dates.  When asking women about their online rendezvous, I hear all too often, “They never deliver what they they say they’re going to do, that enticed me to meet them in the first place.” “Disappointment” is the word... [more]
Dirty Words
April 5th, 2008
09:20 PM
Uuoh baby... I just want you to bend me over and pull my hair back while you're fucking me harder than you've ever done it before. My pussy is so WET and creaming, because I want it as DEEP and HARD as you can give it to me..... I want you to fuck me with just the tip of your dick while I'm... [more]
Lost in Translation
April 1st, 2008
10:19 PM
My new boyfriend forwarded the URL of an Internet photo album to me, which included shots of a trip he took with a friend of his last year. They ended up sleeping separately, he told me, because "she snores and moves around a lot."We had been together lots of times, but were planning a trip of our... [more]
"To Pay or Not To Pay" (the $300 date)
March 29th, 2008
07:59 PM
I laugh until I ache when men claim they never pay for sex. Of course you pay. Get real, gents – you pay every time you “fancy-talk” a lady into a night-on-the-town. Think about it. Upscale dudes go out and get their hair done ($30.00) have the car washed ($10.00). Pick up some flowers to impress... [more]
Dating Count Dracula
March 26th, 2008
07:57 PM
If you're skeptical, think of it as a metaphor. You've met people like this, no matter how you explain what they do. They might seem sexier, more exciting, charming, or successful than other people. Their desire for your company or conversation is enchanting ~ at first. But after a while ~ a... [more]
The Poets Know It - Cupid is Stupid
March 24th, 2008
06:06 PM
Like most people I am utterly baffled by the motives at work in human relationships. And being an arty type I often look to literature for insights into this troubling subject.

Feeling a tad more angst-ridden than usual, I recently went on a serious quote-finding expedition. A Google search... [more]
You're worth it!
March 21st, 2008
06:05 PM
 Remember those TV commercials for beauty products that cost a bit more than the rest? Sure they cost more, the model says. "But I'm worth it!"   When L'Oreal launched that campaign some years ago, it was startling to hear a woman assert her own value. It was a strange concept. But... [more]
I wish I'd never wished!
March 18th, 2008
06:03 PM
 There's a famous saying: “Be careful what you wish for because you may just get it.”  It always struck me as nonsensical, like saying that you shouldn't enter Lotto because you might actually win. As they say in chat rooms, WTF?  But recently I found out what it meant –... [more]
The Pursuit of Happiness
March 15th, 2008
07:27 PM
I recently read an article espousing the joys of celibacy. My first thought: What bloody joys? I read on, and learned that now there are more people than ever who claim to be "happily" single.This description annoyed me. It seemed oxymoronic. Being single certainly has advantages. And yes, you can... [more]
Knobsessed!
March 13th, 2008
07:25 PM
Like just about everyone else on the planet with an e-mail address I'm constantly getting offers for penis enlargement pills. My reaction is invariably one of annoyance. "Why would I want to extend my dick when I haven't yet found a nice warm place to put it?" I mutter to myself, much to the... [more]
A Swing Party (Can You Handle It?)
March 12th, 2008
12:14 AM
Swinging requires more than a partner and the desire. At face value the idea seems great. ”Hey, we’re gonna get it on with several couples and have a blast!”
Think about it before you walk into swing-party you’re not prepared for. Loren and I have a guest couple in this month’s column that’ve... [more]
De-limerence! Holy dueling banjos, Bubba! Better lock the pigs in the barn!
March 7th, 2008
11:13 PM
He's crazy about you! She's madly in love! But is it truly love, or is it temporary insanity?
Delightful as the sensation of falling in love may be, turns out it has a lot in common with drug addiction and mental illness: chemistry.
Of course, talking about the "chemistry" between two people is... [more]
Do you speak body language? Part II: A brief vocabulary
March 4th, 2008
11:10 PM
Eyes They may or may not be the windows to the soul, but eyes are wide-open communicators. Whatever the rest of your face is doing, your eyes usually tell the truth. It's a dead giveaway: the insincere smile, the humorless laugh. The mouth says happy, the voice says hah! But the eyes don't light... [more]
Do you speak body language?
March 1st, 2008
09:40 PM
It takes only a split second for your feelings to show on your face. Even if you've developed the coolest poker face in the game, you can't control that first flicker of response. But never mind; the speed of thought is quicker than the eye. Right?
Recent studies have found that people form an... [more]
We can work it out . . .
February 28th, 2008
09:39 PM
Office romance is on the rise. Seems the chances of stumbling over consenting coworkers is most likely in the conference room, the boss's office (that would be on the boss's desk), the office of one of the couplers, the bathroom, the server room, the elevator, and the ever-popular supply closet.... [more]
Laughter: love potion no. 1
February 26th, 2008
09:37 PM
Ask any woman what she looks for in a man, and often as not you'll hear "sense of humor" at the top of the list. If you're a guy, you may look at the latest crop of Hollywood hotties and figure that's just a rotten joke.
Boy, are you wrong! In fact, it just might be that women can't resist falling... [more]
Cockeyed Funny
February 24th, 2008
09:26 PM
Have you had more dating advice dished up for you than you can possibly digest? Cruise the net, check out a few sites, and you have to beat 'em off with a stick: blogs, ezines, newsletters, free reports, free ebooks, and plenty more that the free stuff tries to entice you to pay for with... [more]
Love or money: what do women want?
February 20th, 2008
09:25 PM
Have you heard this one? "It's as easy to fall in love with a rich man as it is with a poor one." Maybe so, if you can find one. But what if you find one, and you don't fall, after all? Do you marry him anyway? (. . . or her. Whichever.)
A couple hundred years ago, most people wouldn't think... [more]
Come on, would I lie to you?
February 17th, 2008
09:22 PM
Most deceivers have the best of intentions. A few, most certainly, don't. Either way, you want to know the truth. Is it possible?
Here's where a bit of common sense can do the trick. Just keep in mind, there's no single, foolproof sign that someone's lying. Not even shifty eyes. And it can be even... [more]
The truth about Cupid
February 14th, 2008
10:48 PM
Oh, that cute and cuddly Cupid! You see him everywhere, this time of year, all pink-cheeked and chubby, wearing only a diaper (if he wears anything at all) and aiming a lethal arrow straight at your heart!
What's the deal here? Who in their right mind would give a bow and arrow to a baby?
His... [more]
What celebrities say about sex
February 8th, 2008
11:23 PM
They may be rich and famous, but celebrities seem to have at least as much trouble with sex and romance as the rest of us do. We want to hear all about it, too. It makes us feel better to know that even the gifted and glamorous struggle to get it right. So, even on their off days, the show must go... [more]
Liar, liar, pants on fire!
February 5th, 2008
11:00 PM
You can't smell the smoke. You can't see if his nose grows like Pinocchio's with every email. It could be that her eyes shift and her lip twitches each time she IMs you. You simply can't be sure if they are who they say they are. Or can you?
Deception is easy on the Internet. That may be the one... [more]
First Date (What's Color Got to Do, Got to Do with It?)
February 2nd, 2008
10:58 PM
This could be the one! You've been working up to it. Now you're finally going to get together, and everything has to be right. You've planned it all out, maybe even made a list of things to talk about. (Hey, lots of people do that!) Now you should be enjoying that feeling of happy anticipation. You... [more]
Online Love
January 30th, 2008
10:39 PM
Falling in love online can be as completely emotionally real as falling in love in real time. It seems utterly silly to think that we can give our hearts to someone we have never even met in person, and yet, it happens a million times a day on the internet.
When new to the internet, most are... [more]
Swinging for Novices
January 26th, 2008
10:34 PM
Many couples these days have found a new way of expressing their sexuality with each other by meeting other couples to share “recreational” sex. “Playing” is another term for this activity. As our culture advances, the opportunities for such are broadening. The “Net Culture” has opened up new... [more]
Curing Loneliness
January 24th, 2008
11:11 PM
One of the worst romantic problems facing many people is quite simply not having a partner to play with. We all have different needs with this one. Sometimes we want someone to relieve the sexual yearning. Sometimes we want a major love fest to bloom, whether it’s for a season of enchantment or a... [more]
Looking for Myth-ter Right
January 21st, 2008
11:14 PM
I often hear that the Internet is a window into the popular mindset - or "zeitgeist" as arty types like to call it. With this in mind I was curious about what major ideas we're obsessed with.
So I typed "myth" into Google and started surfing. I ended up on some wacky sites, many of which had a... [more]
Did Somebody Say "It's What's Inside That Counts?
January 17th, 2008
11:12 PM
The Truth About Beauty
Think quick: Peter Pimple just asked you out for dinner and dancing—wanna go? Or Beulah Bovine has invited you on a picnic at the beach (she's got a new bikini)—do you jump at the chance? Hearts of gold, both of them, but gee . . . I think I'm busy that day . . .... [more]
Profile power: Putting your best self forward
January 13th, 2008
11:05 PM
You're not a predator, right? You're not here to hoodwink anybody. Sure, everybody looks forward to a little action . . . maybe a lot of action. But let's assume you want to find someone special to get busy with, someone who's just right for you.
For the moment, forget about photos. Of course... [more]
Soul-mating in cyberspace
January 9th, 2008
11:03 PM
This is the moment. You've tweaked your profile till it sings, uploaded your most flattering photos, and scrutinized a squillion other posted hopefuls in your search for The One—or at least for some fun. You've had some responses and sent some yourself, and maybe that little frisson of thrilling... [more]
How to fight fair and win anyway
January 5th, 2008
11:02 PM
Lovers' quarrel. Marital spat. The Battle of the Sexes. The War Between Men and Women. Why is it that intelligent adults of the same species, even those that love each other, have so much trouble communicating?
The truth is, disagreements with your Significant Other don't have to escalate into... [more]
Dating, déjà vu?
January 1st, 2008
10:57 PM
Is anything worse than the end of a long-term relationship? You feel as though somebody died. Maybe your partner; certainly, the relationship itself. You probably feel kind of dead inside, yourself.
You've been through all the stages: denial and loneliness, anger, fighting to keep things as they... [more]
How to tell if she's interested. Or not.
December 30th, 2007
07:35 PM
The trouble with so many women is that they really don't want to hurt your feelings. They're just too damned polite.
Or else they want to be pursued. They need to know that you think they're worth the time and effort. (Don't think they haven't considered this, learned it from their mothers,... [more]
Animal attraction 101: Laws of the jungle
December 26th, 2007
07:34 PM
See that girl across the room? Ba-da-boom! That's the one!
Buy her a drink. She smiles. You chat. She smiles. It's all good. So you ask her out. And she . . . declines.
What happened? What did you do wrong?
Not a thing. She simply wasn't attracted to you.
You must have been on the flip side... [more]
Does the man *always* have to pay?
December 23rd, 2007
07:32 PM
I don't know if you've noticed, many men have cut back on their spending on initial dates with women.
In the past, when I was dating a few times a week, I could easily spend $500.00 - $800.00 per month dating and hanging out. I really did not have it to spend, but I felt obligated to spend... [more]
Mom never told you about Auntie
December 12th, 2007
11:32 PM
Dear Auntie,
I've got two questions that are driving me crazy.
First of all, why do men always assume that if you're friendly and seem to like them ok, of course you want to have sex with them? They even ask you, "Why don't you want to have sex with me?" Like, what am I supposed to tell them? I... [more]
But how do you tell when the time is right?
December 10th, 2007
11:49 PM
Recent studies have already shown that women are more likely to stray during their fertile period each month—the 48 hours or so of ovulation. They're also more likely to be attracted to macho-type guys (dominant "alpha" males) during that same couple of days.
Now it turns out, according to yet... [more]
Animal attraction 102: Rules of the game
December 7th, 2007
11:47 PM
It may seem as though the mating game is little more than a crapshoot—at least on those days when you keep coming up snake eyes.
That's not entirely true, though. As with most things, there are rules. Know them, use them, and the odds can shift heavily in your favor.
Rule I. The mere-exposure... [more]
No, you only think you were rejected
December 4th, 2007
11:42 PM
Virtual libraries have been written about rejection—how to survive it, how to rise above it. You've seen the titles: 3 techniques, 9 phases, 18 steps to . . . deal with it. The truth is, you will survive it (unless you decide not to), and you can learn from it, if you're straight with... [more]
A perfect first date
December 2nd, 2007
11:24 PM
Asking for that first date is one thing; making it turn out great is something else again. You want to get to know each other better, have fun, fan the flames, and—if all goes well—clinch a second date.
No problem. All you need is an entertaining activity that stimulates all those good-buzz brain... [more]
Official (unwritten) rules of office romance
November 29th, 2007
09:40 PM
It only stands to reason that, since you spend at least half your waking hours at work, odds are good you'll eventually bump into somebody you want to spend more hours with. After all, you have common work interests. You hang out in the same general office space. You know many of the same people.... [more]
Help yourself! First dates that lead to seconds
November 25th, 2007
09:39 PM
Even if you flunked high school science and you can't pronounce "phenylethylamine," let alone spell it, you ought to know that it's the secret ingredient for concocting a truly tasty first date.
Phenylethylamine (PEA) is the natural "love drug." It controls all those powerful brain chemicals that... [more]
You're Worth It
November 19th, 2007
09:37 PM
Remember those TV commercials for beauty products that cost a bit more than the rest? Sure they cost more, the model says. "But I'm worth it!"

When L'Oreal launched that campaign some years ago, it was startling to hear a woman assert her own value. It was a strange concept. But it was a wildly... [more]
An Irreverent Look at Dating Sites
November 16th, 2007
09:35 PM
I heard on the news tonight that there's a new, exclusive dating site where you are required to "be good-looking, or be rejected."  Frankly, as a writer, I get enough rejection. But, my curiosity got the best of me and I decided to check it out anyway.
The rules of engagement on this site are... [more]
The Pursuit of Happiness
November 13th, 2007
09:34 PM
I recently read an article espousing the joys of celibacy. My first thought: What bloody joys?

I read on, and learned that now there are more people than ever who claim to be "happily" single.

This description annoyed me. It seemed oxymoronic.

Being single certainly has advantages. And... [more]
When Self Worth Finally Comes
November 6th, 2007
11:01 PM
There is a tendency in relationships to put the blame upon one’s self when our partner is not accepting of something about ourselves. In my situation, I spent many years upsetting my own sense of self-worth by my partner’s rejection of me physically. When the understanding finally came-from... [more]
Having It All?
November 3rd, 2007
11:43 PM
Having been one of those females that grew up thinking and believing that the prettiest and most confident girls got it all, I just had to share with others who also thought this way a letter that was written to an advice columnist and published in our local paper this morning. Here it is... [more]
Did He Really Say That?
November 1st, 2007
11:31 PM
A couple of months ago, a colleague of mine was talking to me about the dissolution he was experiencing in his marriage. Among one of the things he could not understand was her reaction to his flirting with other women. He honestly could not understand why this upset her.
I looked at him in a kind... [more]
Just the Two of You
October 29th, 2007
07:43 PM
The basis of any relationship should be just the interaction between the two people involved. One person meets another and whatever transpires between them and how they relate to one another is strictly their business. A simple theory, really, to understand.
But in real life, where most of us have... [more]
When a Sexless Partner Changes his Mind
October 26th, 2007
08:35 PM
Whenever people speak about wanting their partner to change, it’s usually with an air of half-resignation that their partner won’t (or can’t). Yet I have discovered that when the impossible happens and a partner does start changing their attitude and behavior, it’s not quite as easy an adjustment... [more]
The Blow Job is Enough?
October 25th, 2007
12:36 AM
A common complaint I hear women say who are involved in a long-term relationship is: “Why doesn’t he want sex anymore?”
A common complaint I hear men say who are involved in long-term relationship is: “Why doesn’t she want sex anymore?”
Now here’s the kicker: if you spoke to both sexes within any... [more]
Reminiscing about Past Partners
October 23rd, 2007
12:30 AM
The older I get, the less I like hearing about all the rules that are publicized for men and women to do to get along with one another in relationships. The ones I take the most exception to are the ones that give a list of how women and men should act, behave and speak (not to mention wear) in... [more]
Loving an Unaffectionate Man
October 20th, 2007
12:19 AM
The hardest thing about spending a great deal of time with an unaffectionate man is seeing him be affectionate to someone or something else-such as a pet or another person. Since you’ve seen with your own eyes that he can became soft and tender, then you feel like you know that deep down inside of... [more]
Maybe Breaking Up Isn’t the Thing to Do...
October 18th, 2007
12:13 AM
There are so many ways to break up with people, aren’t there? Yet where is all this knowledge when we discover that we just want out of the relationship that we’re in?
I know the movies make fun of breaking up with someone. They make it seem the easiest thing to do unless the person you’re trying... [more]
So Far…
October 14th, 2007
11:59 PM
Sometimes dreams shared with someone are hard to let go of. Like maybe some of the dreams that you’ve been hanging on to that include your ex-husband or ex-wife.
It took me years to wean myself off the dreams that my ex-husband and I had built. It’s not even that we had had so much time together... [more]
The Recognition of Habits
October 5th, 2007
11:44 PM
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone for so long that they claim that they recognize your habits even before you do? And over time you’ve found, much to your annoyance, that what they said was true?

“So I have to change my habits so that he/she doesn’t think they know all about... [more]
Myths about Lonely People
October 3rd, 2007
11:36 PM
I was cleaning the kitchen the other day when a song came on the radio that spoke about a lonely girl wanting to meet a lonely man. I found my reaction to be: “Yuck. Lonely? What guy wants to meet a lonely girl? And what girl wants to meet a lonely guy?”

Yet, aren’t there many of us who are... [more]
Contributing To Our Own Pain
October 1st, 2007
11:24 PM
Today I was listening to a young woman tell me how much of herself she is giving and continues to give, to the one that she loves. She told me that she fluctuates going back and forth in reasoning, knowing that his actions are not good for her, but she keeps loving him anyway. When she said: “I... [more]
A Step towards Individuality
September 30th, 2007
12:34 AM
I went to a meeting a few weeks ago where the editors of several major magazines in Connecticut were representing themselves. It was the first time that I found myself sitting at a circular table of other writers and to tell you the truth, I found it to be a bit intimidating as well as exciting.
I... [more]
One Man’s Question
September 27th, 2007
12:20 AM
Today a male co-worker walked up to me and wanted to know why more women are attracted to him when he’s scruffy-looking and mean-spirited.  
I turned my head and looked up towards him, squinting my eyes as I shielded them from the sun. He noticed and moved over, offering me some... [more]
Acceptance not Approval
September 25th, 2007
02:19 AM
I’ve often been so bored within relationships that I’ve left good men behind. I didn’t understand at the time that I can’t look to my partner to keep me entertained. It’s up to me to build my own life, to make my own fun, to maintain my own relationships separate from ‘ours.’ Making my relationship... [more]
Could, Should and Don’t
September 19th, 2007
07:18 PM
People who don’t take care of their health are affecting their love lives in several ways. I know because I’m one of these people.
Oh, I know, I know...at the advanced age of almost forty six years, I should know that exercising and taking care of myself physically is beneficial to me in more ways... [more]
“Now That You’re Here...”
September 17th, 2007
07:15 PM
I’ve been away from my desk for a few days this month, possibly for the longest period of time ever. It was a deliberate decision.
Just like placing an ad on Sexyads is.
Even if you are hesitant in what you are going to write and say, even if you never meet anyone (by your choice), you made the... [more]
Attraction at Work
September 12th, 2007
11:17 PM
When you’re attracted to someone who is attracted to you back, sparks are felt and you feel happy. When you’re attracted to someone who isn’t attracted to you back, sparks are felt and they burn. When you’re attracted to someone who isn’t attracted to you and you see them every day, and you watch... [more]
Moving On
September 10th, 2007
09:49 PM
Last week a female friend gave me a call. We caught up on things a little bit-some things don’t change too quickly-and she told me something new that had improved within her relationship with her husband. “It got better,” she said, “because we sat down and finally talked about divorce, among other... [more]
Just Doing Some Weeding Out...
September 6th, 2007
11:32 PM
Two days before Labor Day weekend, I was at a party with several women and one of them had a story to tell me about her recent experience online with a well-known dating site for singles. You’ve all heard of this site: if I told you the name you would recognize it instantly.
Naturally, I was... [more]
A Little about Guilt-Free Sex
September 3rd, 2007
11:25 PM
The other day I was in conversation with a man I admire very much when he wrote: “Isn’t it okay to want to have guilt-free sex?” And I thought: “What a great topic.”

Guilt-free sex.  Oh, the number of women who would love to experience that. The “be-a-good-girl” syndrome is so ingrained in... [more]