Tuesday 10 March, 2009Breast wishes for you

 In our sex culture, breasts are the icons of female sexuality so often heaped in controversy, passion, and lust. Despite the fact that they’re just breasts—essentially sacks of fat with mammary plumbing—they have been empowered by the culture to stir up everything from rapture to anguish.
 
 Breasts from a man’s perspective are quite different from a woman’s, and that’s important. How a man treats his lover’s breasts and how she personally feels about them say bunches about how their lovemaking will flow.
 
 Some women love their breasts. Their breasts make them feel rich and powerful. They’ve long since learned how to charm men with how they carry their bodies and dress to emphasize the curves of their breasts. Sex workers are especially good at showing off their breasts in ways that excite men.
 
 Other women hate their breasts. It’s been said that breasts come in two sizes: too big and too small. Many women have suffered intense, brutal pain believing that they don’t measure up to or down to someone else’s ideal. They feel cheated by nature. Their breasts make them feel impoverished. Many women resort to breast enhancement surgery, hoping to fix what they see as a major flaw in size or shape.
 
 Busty women often feel like freaks as they endure other people’s envy and ridicule. Frequently they despise the curse of unwanted attention they get, both from the men who gawk and women who say mean things.
 
 Men often encounter emotional outbursts they aren’t prepared for when they ogle, say the “wrong” thing (calling them gazongas is not always the best choice), or let their eyes wander to another woman’s shapely body. In truth, what goes on in the mind about breasts is every bit as important as what happens with the body.
 
 How to Handle Breasts
 Unlike touching arms or shoulders or backs, touching breasts is usually regarded as sexually meaningful. It crosses the line from platonic to erotic.
 
 Timing is everything. Unless you know differently, women usually don’t like having their breasts grabbed or groped—“Hi, how are you? Let me feel your tits.”
 
 Women like to be warmed up, first mentally, then with hugging, kissing, and general body contact before the full frontal assault. By gently stroking her arms, shoulders, ribcage, and back, you create the sensation of warmth and comfort that gives way within a few minutes to a desire for more intimate contact. A skilled lover creates in a woman that longing to have her breasts stroked and sucked. A bolder woman may place your hand where she wants it.
 
 Make your first breast caresses tender sweeping motions, such as fluidly palming her breasts with gently sliding hands. Whether over clothing or against the bare breast, a smooth touch sets the stage better than an unexpected nipple pinch.
 
 Find out how your sweetie likes to be touched. As in everything else sexual, each woman has a slightly different set of turn-ons and turn-offs. Some like a slow hand and a gentle touch. Others like squeezing and biting. Some are into pain that brings tears to their eyes. Knowing your honey’s favorites helps you give a better gift.
 
 Speaking of gifts, many women feel that their breasts are precious gifts they give men they love. Some men quickly rip off the giftwrap, cop a quick squeeze or lick, then hastily move along to the next spot of flesh on their agenda. Slow down. Take the scenic trail. Savor the gift.
 
 There’s more to loving breasts than tweaking the nipple. For instance, some women go wild when the undersides of their breasts are licked with wide, wet swatches of tongue. A soft licking with a loose wide tongue all the way around her globes can be most arousing. Some women go wild with pulsating suction that begins at the outsides of the breast and finally culminate over the nipple.
 
 Be inventive. There are countless ways to lick, suck, bite, hold, stroke, and otherwise stimulate breasts. Even when you know your sweetie’s favorite sensations, variety is good. Surprise her with something different. Keep her guessing by varying your technique. Predictability is an expressway to boring sex.
 
 Don’t forget to occasionally gaze into your lover’s eyes while stroking and suckling her breasts. Eye contact awakens deep feelings of primal nurturing and intimacy. Some women feel insulted if you constantly suckle with your eyes closed. They think you’re fantasizing about someone else or are solely obsessed with their breast flesh and are shutting them out.
 
 Making Breasts Special
 Breasts are symbolic. They mean something. A lot of self-esteem is tied up in breasts. If they’re your breasts, you respond to how people treat them—and how they treat you for having them. How a mate treats you with her breasts is often symbolic of her feelings for you. That’s one reason why breasts figure so prominently in foreplay; it’s not just physical stimulation, it’s mental, too.
 
 Intense feelings can stir up in men as they worship their lover’s breasts. Some men find it extremely difficult to articulate these feelings, and they do a lot of mumbling. Yet it’s worth the effort to share with your honey how what she does makes you very happy. If you crave something she doesn’t do, show her in a positive, upbeat way what you’d like.
 
 When speaking about breasts, understand that women generally do not appreciate terms such as jugs, knockers, and floppers. If nasty words hold erotic power for you, you may have to instruct your lover on what to say to give you great pleasure. Remember, she’s learning a foreign dialect.
 
 Meanwhile, you can return the favor and enhance her erotic enjoyment by learning what phrases and images about her breasts (and other sexual features) please her. The better you understand her sexual preferences, the better you can arouse her and take your place as a memorable lover.
 
 The more you communicate what happens in your mind as a lover, the more intimate your lovemaking will be. A woman once told me about how her man regarded her breasts in a mystical way. The look on her face said it all. They’d transcended ordinary sex.