Saturday 30 May, 2009Can You Be "Romantically" In Love With Two People At The Same Time??

Azzuraye - I have heard people say that they can; but I don't know..I have been "in love" with one and when I really gave it some thought.. I was "in lust" with the other.

LoveMoore - I am with you on this one Azzuraye but in theory I would like to think it is possible because there are varying degrees of love but equally..and romantically too..I don't think it is possible.
The reason I say this is because people are unique and various needs of mine are being met through their uniqueness..Am I making a case for Yes...I'm so confused, LOL

TongueTornado - I have to say NO...because when you truly love someone, you give of yourself and what you give can not be shared or duplicated...TT

celticsugar - i've never even been close. when i am in love with someone, i can't even get remotely interested in anyone else, and don't want to.

youngforever - Romanically In Love........no. In Love .. yes as there are many kinds of love.

hairy_lime - I don't know whether polyamory works in the long term?

CY4Vel - Speaking strictly in my own case..
..Yes..I can and often am.
..Romance by it's nature is illusionary in design...
....it's quite easily duplicated simultaneously...if one chooses so doing...

I never..Unlove..so ANYONE..I've ever fallin Romantically ..in Love..with..I yet ..
..Romantically Love them...while Romantically Loving Others..simultaneously.

Yes..I'm strange...

dogslife2live - let see if we look through sa we find a whole lot
of people looking for a third..a little on the side...and so on..and so forth..
and we all agree we can love more than one
all though the love the not same...
love it is still the same..
so if you are in love with two
and the two be romantic fools
but the two are are romantic in different ways
and you a romantic by nature
are you not romantically in love
naturally with two
i would add a third
but that is just
just two to much for my
single mind to handle

wawagirl  - I agree YoungForever, it depends on the type of love..romantic love...hmmmm... i dont think so...but just as u love each child in a different way, you love them all the same...
i dont think romantically the love would be even or equal...i think one would always rate higher then the other in some way..

dogslife2live - but wawa dear this is not about equal..
it is about romantically...
can you love only one at a time..two..or more..
if not the same
if not as much
still..can it be called love

and why would one not love being in love
for what can feel better than
caring more for an other
except knowing they feel the same for you
but can you have those feelings for one
for two.

THEWORDFINDER2 - I have been in love, many!many! times! in my life ! each women that I have every made love too,I treated her as if I was in love with her..because I was ! How every! lasting love I have yet to find after five try 's at it !

HottieJodie - yeah i definitely think you can be in love romantically with more than one person at a time. our capacity to love is very great and we can share that love with lots of people at one time. however relationships are difficult and to keep one going long term takes a lot of work and energy and i doubt very much if you can keep more than one intense love relationship going at the same time. I think it would be exhausting because love is a very very important part of a relationship but it's not the only factor involved!

Linny - I feel there is different kinds of love, there is only one true love, then there is the love you can share with someone, while with them but yet still part and go your own ways.

sallyheart123 - I'm so confused... I think you can be "in love" with more than one person because part of the feeling is that newness, that excitement... that lessens with time but love can develop. I think people wanting something on the side are looking for that "in love" feeling without loving someone.

dogslife2live - or sometimes we confuse love and lust..

Married_Senior - When after over twenty years of monogamous marriage I took up with a G/F, I assumed the inital attraction was lust. However, that relationship lasted twelve years, so I believe one can love two people simultaneously, concurrently, at the same time and .. oh, am I being redundant?

Darn! My medication must be wearing off ...
... and now that nice man in the white coat is coming to tell me it's time for my nap ...

dogslife2live - and how does one differentiate between
true love
real love
plain love
but most of all does there there have to be intercourse to have love...

Linny - NO there does not have to be sex to have true love, you can love without sex, and the rest is common sense in my book. You meet someone you agree to meet as friends, maybe there will be sex, that is more lust then love. Maybe I was wrong in what I was saying, but I do believe there is different kinds of love. Love of a spouse, love of a friend, love for your children and family, and pure lust for someone you so wanna enjoy.

dogslife2live - then dear may i say
...................i lust you

Linny - Lust away darlin!

urguide - seems to me that true love is a once in a lifetime. maybe im wrong! I know one thing...that love thing will fuck you up big time!

artist275  - I DON'T KNOW IF ANY ONE WILL AGREE WITH BUT WHEN I GOT ON SEXY ADS I WASN'T LOOKING FOR LOVE BECAUSE I WAS MARRIED AND AFTER 35YRS I WAS IN LOVE WITH MY WIFE BUT WITH IN A MONTH I HAD MET A WOMEN IN AUSTRAILA IT STARTED JUST EMAILING BUT AS WE GOT KNOW EACH OUTHER IT HEATED UP AND I WAS READY IF ANY THING HAPPENED TO MY WIFE I WAS GOING TO PACK UP AND MOVE TO AUSTRAILA BUT AROUND NEW YEARS SHE DESIDED SHE WANTED MR. RIGHT NOW INSTEAD OF MR. A LITTE LATER. BUT I WAS AS MUCH IN LOVE ONE AS I WAS WITH THE OTHER.

Azzuraye  - I was speaking with several young ladies between the ages of 18-21 and they said you DEFINITELY can romantically love two at the same time-Each provides a different need(s) being met within you.

However, the older the women got the less likely they believed in this theory..Interesting!