Thursday 3 March, 2011Domestic Discipline

Domestic discipline is something that may work for many couples. A majority of DD relationships have the man in charge of administering discipline towards the woman however there is a growing trend seeing more women as the individual administering displicine. The person in charge is frequently referred to as HOH or "Head of Household". I'm certain you will find relationships of domestic discipline in same sex relationships but I haven't discovered much about the net about this.

If each partner involved communicates their feelings clearly, and rules and guidelines are set up ahead of time and common sense is utilized, then domestic discipline can be a great addition to a relationship. Although every adult domestic discipline relationship is going to be unique, many couples have used the Spencer Spanking Plan to shape their relationships.

A visit to the Spencer Spanking Strategy website was truly interesting. One of the origins circa 1690 (although unproven) of the phrase "Rule of Thumb" is that a man could not beat his wife with a plank wider than the width of his thumb. Domestic discipline is far from the rule of thumb. The Spencer Strategy is a contract between a couple wherever each partner bears a responsibility to the other and a craft a technique to regain balance, find harmony and strengthen the bond in between them.

Many couples feel that domestic self-control or spanking is far preferable than what happens in numerous homes - the silent treatment or withholding of affection or sex. Angry partners show moments of rudeness, talk about their partner's shortcomings to others and sometimes forget essential events like birthdays or anniversaries. Spanking addresses the wrong and puts it away resulting in the hurt not festering for days, weeks or months.

So what sorts of things are in the guidelines?

1. Whenever possible the partner is to be hand spanked; not strapped or paddled. This encourages a the highest level of intimacy in the discipline. However under the Modified Spencer Plan a partner may be disciplined with an implement (see Rule #7).

2. Care should be taken not to bruise, raise welts or injure your partner in any way. The punishment should continue long enough however, to be truly effective and to impart a beneficial lesson for your partner. Your aim is to deliver responsible discipline, not mindless abuse.

3. A spanking must never be administered in anger. Wait until both parties are calm and it can be carried out properly and safely.

4. The spanking over, the incident must close. To hold anything against a punished partner, after a spanking or whipping has been given, is in direct violation of this whole method of correction.

5. A spanking must never be given before a third party without the FREE CONSENT and WILLING Permission of both parties PRIOR to the event. Nor is any one to be informed that such discipline is employed without the FREE CONSENT and WILLING Permission of both parties. The Modified Spencer Plan is meant to be a private, intimate agreement base in love and compassion for your partner. It does not however exclude the potential necessity for special circumstances.

6. Requested punishment MUST be given. Here we have a most important and valuable feature of the Original Spencer Plan. It is not enough to take the discipline without fuss or argument when our punishing partner feels we should have it -- we must also ASK FOR IT, when we know or feel that we deserve it! A compassionate partner should never dispute or challenge a requested spanking, and should deliver punishment at the first available opportunity.

7. Only implements previously agreed to by both parties may be used on a partner. A light leather strap or belt, a wooden paddle, or ruler would be preferred to administer the punishment with. Partners must use extreme care, however, not to cut the flesh, raise welts or injure their partner in any way. The only implement which is permitted at all times is the hand; all other times the implement should be decided upon by both partners, or selected by the recipient before discipline is administered.

8. Not more than two punishments can be administered in any one day. It is seldom necessary to observe this precaution -- but it is here to cover very unusual and unexpected circumstances. In the extremely rare instances where a partner really merits more than two spankings in any one day, the punishment must be postponed to the next day or to whatever following day they decide is best. An agreed upon punishment can NOT be forgotten or forgiven, only delayed.

9. The punishment should be inflicted upon the bare skin. In no other way can a careful check be kept on the progress of the spanking or whipping. Remember, the idea of corporal punishment is to sting the flesh effectively without truly harming the partner in any way. To do the job intelligently a constant scrutiny of the skin must be maintained. Discipline administered over clothing -- even a thin, single garment is "blind punishment." It may be altogether too severe, or not severe enough. At minimum the partner is to be disciplined on a bare, naked bottom.

10. There must be PROMPT ACCEPTANCE of discipline. There must be no argument -- no protest -- no pleading to be let off -- and NEVER any hard feelings about it! Your partner puts a high level of trust in you to bear out your responsibility in the agreement. In a healthy and open relationship it is rarely a matter of concern because it is a cooperative decision, not a contested one.



What does a spanking agreement consist of?

Date: _______________________, 2_____

I _______________________, partner of ___________________ do hereby acknowledge that I have read this "Modified Spencer Spanking Plan" and the related "Modified Spencer Spanking Plan Rules". I attest that I fully agree with and voluntarily approve of the doctrines it advocates. From this date on it is my wish to have my conduct regulated by the enforcement of these doctrines. I grant to my lover, therefore, the full right and permission to discipline me whenever they feel such discipline would prove helpful and be in accordance with the spirit of this Modified Spencer Spanking Plan. This Agreement has been entered into willingly -- and for no other purpose than to improve my disposition and secure the general benefit that always comes from the enforcement of intimate discipline. I understand that I will be spanked without fail if I break my promise to refrain from:

Making any lie or falsehood to my lover

Not completing an agreed upon chore or assignment

Any sexual contact with any other person without permission

Being excessively rude or intentionally offensive to my partner

Failing to show proper attention and deference to my partner in public



I promise to cooperate with my lover faithfully. I will get ready for the punishment promptly when asked to do so and I will bear them absolutely no ill-will for so disciplining me. I promise further to ASK for discipline when I feel it is needed. I realize that requested punishment plays a highly important role in the Spencer Plan, and I will report and ask for the discipline when I feel need or deserve it.

By entering "YES" or "NO" in the appropriate blanks below I further condone the use of the below listed implements only, and only when mutually agreed upon or requested by me.

____ Hand _____ Strap _____ Paddle
____________________________ Other

Signed:

I COMMIT THIS TO MY PARTNER:

Printed: ________________________ Signature: ______________________


I ACCEPT THIS FROM MY PARTNER:

Printed: ________________________ Signature: ______________________



If you'd like more information about domestic discipline or spanking you can get the full story at the SpencerPlanSpanking.com