Thursday 17 March, 2011It's NOT about how you look!

I talked with a couple of people in chat the other night and the topic got on looks. The woman told us she was really unattractive but she had a great personality. I asked what about her made her unattractive and she said that she was very overweight and she accepts that she'll always be alone. If she read all the ads I read every day from men who say they really love large women, she wouldn't think that way. The man was someone I've known for a long time at SexyAds and he kept interrupting her to tell her she was wrong. Until she believes that people see her differently from what she sees in the mirror, he's wasting his breath.

To those people who worry that their looks keep them from meeting someone new, I say to them:

You will NEVER look the way you think you want to and yet, people WILL still find you attractive.

You're not too fat. You're not too skinny for someone to love you. You don't need surgery or a diet unless something about you is likely to kill or harm yourself in some way. Stop finding fault with yourself. There are lots of people who'd love to be with you just the way you are.

So if you think you've failed because you haven't found the right person to complete your life - remember this. Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.

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