What Do You Know About Relationships?
What does everyone know about relationships?
We know we’re supposed to be kind.
We know we’re supposed to be supporting/supportive of our partner.
We know that we’re supposed to be a “we” and not an “I.”
We know we’re supposed to honor our own feelings as much as we respect any others.
We know that our parents tried to help us even if they didn’t. Or couldn’t. Or didn’t know how to. And we know that these memories and beliefs and feelings are a big part of making up who we are today, no matter what our age is.
Some of us recognize and admit that we know we have patterns of behavior about ourselves that others might find quirky, lovable, strange or just plain weird. Yet we all know that we are supposed to be with the one that makes us feel the most comfortable. And we all know that it is said that choosing as your partner the person you most feel yourself with is probably the right choice.
Have you ever thought, in regards to the people of your past or present that you have experienced ‘the special relationship’ with, as to why you chose to be with who you have? Were you even aware that you had some participation in that decision?
Did you know that in remembering the choices you made then, remembering what you felt then and why you chose to be with the person you were with, or continue to be with, that taking the time for this inner reflection can help you to become clearer on the self who you are now?
Have you ever thought: Did I make any good choices in spite of all the apparent bad ones? And that leads to: How can I trust myself in the future to know what is good for me or not?
Has the thought ever crossed your mind of: Is the Universe really against me in not wanting me to have a loving relationship? And how about: I want someone just like me because than we’ll understand each other.
What about the secret thoughts that you have that maybe you’re just an unlucky person? And what if, (gulp), what if you really are one of those people who see the glass as half empty and not half full?
As I become older and my hair grays and I gain wisdom, I am beginning to understand that how we relate to one another is truly all we have to share with one another. It really is. Whether we’re at home or with friends or are conversing in the office, our present daily lives are all about the relationships we are having and have had with people.
Yet you’re saying you need to meet some new people to add something to your life that is missing? Well, maybe you do. But what if you continue to act in the same manner? How new will this new person stay?