Online relationships - Is it cheating...?
If you are in a relationship, and connect with someone emotionally online...is it cheating? - kiwilicious
t depends on what the status of your relationship. I believe honest communication is the best policy. In my case, my hubby and I have met on the internet - we continue to have our personal ad(s) up as we inform 'all ' of our relationship. My hubby and I have open access to each others accounts... Personally, I have nothing to hide from him. I create new friendships/relationships with people online daily. I just make sure my boundaries are set clearly and understood before commensing any real commitment.
Trust is earned; not given just as RESPECT. - miladykyra
So, are you saying, you're married to a man you met online, everything is open between the 2 of you, but yet you would still commit to someone online emotionally? - kiwilicious
I believe if someone is married, or in a relationship but seeks emotional attachment to someone else 'online' then questions have to be asked. It is 'cheating' if you give all of yourself to someone online via shared emotions, and don't tell the one you live with about it. - kiwilicious
I think the key part of this is not telling your SO. I've had many friends who have friends of the opposite sex and they are ok with it cause they talk to each other. I remember a time when my ex came to me and told me about this guy who kept hitting on her at work. She was 30, he was 21. She loved the fantasy of a younger man, and since she was up front and honest with me I told her to go and enjoy the fantasy. If she had snuck around then I would have been mad and it would have caused huge problems. Sharing with each other can be the most wonderful thing in a relationship! - james54
YES! I believe so! I KNOW I will catch flack for my opinion(what the hell else is new?LOL), but as always- I always give my honest opinion. I believe that you don't need to have your clothes off to be cheating. If you are dishonest or not forthcoming with your partner about an online relationship and are hiding any part of it....it is cheating. It matters not if you have not met the person in real life or if you have met ,but didn't have sex. If there is desire in your heart for the other person then it is cheating.Period! I believe there are more emotional type affairs that take place online than actual meetings in the real world for sex. I ALMOST think it is worse to carry on an emotional affair behind your partners back than if you were having actual sex with someone. At least with sex...it might just be about sex! When you are emotionally attached to another person besides your partner...you are not able to give yourself and your heart 100% to the person .
Just my . Kiwi....it is not cheating if you show me your boobies btw...Mikey said it's OK! LMAO!
- shanniepie
I agree with shannie (except for the part about wanting to see Kiwi's boobs.) Discounting the possibility of contracting a horrible disease, I think the emotional cheating is WAY worse than the physical cheating!- Aldonza
All I had said was that it depends on your relationship --
if you build you relatioship on trust; and have communication... it depends on what the TWO people agree to.... Now I have friends who hide everything from their SO; and I personally think that is wrong. Each to their own... and ONLY you can control your own actions.
I was just lucky to have met my SO online; and he has made online communication an agreed upon item. I have met several intimate friends online. It seems I am an open book -- I have nothing to hide (sort of speak). We have an open discussion and very open on that. My hubby and I have shared some of the online relationships we have; along with the profiles. We have each others log on names along with passwords. We do not hide anything from the online people we have engaged in chat, pictures, video chats, etc. I have not tested the waters on a physical meet with someone else -- as I believe that would be crossing the line; nor has he.
IF you have something to hide by doing something that your SO will not agree to; that is on you as how you deal with it.- miladykyra
I think it depends how old you are.
I have found from playing an online game that youngsters have a very liberal view of cheating online. They seem to want to form online relationships at the drop of a hat however they seem to take the view that they only have to be faithful on that site anything else off that site is ok and not cheating.
I might be a bit old for this concept as my view of cheating is much narrower. I would hate to think that my SO had formed any other emotional attachment, that may be more about my insecurity but there you go. I think once you have made a vow to "forsake all others" then forsake all others is what you do. - demonred
i think it would be considered cheating if it is already affecting the relationship you consider you are seriously in of..
it doesn't matter if you are married, have a bf/gf in real life or if its another relationship online..when this other person on the opposite end of your internet connection somehow makes you think of your current SO less or want to be more with this person than the one you are emotionally responsible with ...well that's cheating...for me anyways.
but if it honestly doesn't affect your relationship with the other person in any way ..nope. - looking4mybarbie