Improving sex as you age
Many older adults say their sex lives improve as they age. Improving your sex life requires more communication with your partner and a few small changes.
Expand your definition of sex:
Sex is more than intercourse. As you age, other options might be more comfortable and more fulfiling. Touch can be a good alternative to intercourse. It can simply mean holding each other. It can also mean a sensual massage. Michael Douglas and wife Catherine Zeta-Jones swear by this technique of igniting the fire in their marriage.
Communicate with your partner:
Communication brings you and your partner closer together. Discuss the changes you're going through and what your partner can do to accommodate you during sex. Maybe a different position makes intercourse easier for you, or other sexual activities, such as massage or cuddling, might interest you. Ask your partner about his or her needs and ways that you can also be accommodating. Communication itself can be arousing.
Make changes to your routine:
Simple changes can improve your sex life. Change the time of day when you have sex to a time when you have the most energy. Try the morning - when you are refreshed from a good night's sleep - rather than at the end of a long day. Because it might take longer for you to become aroused, take more time to set the stage for romance, such as a romantic dinner or an evening of dancing. Try a new sexual position rather than the standard missionary position. You might find one that's more comfortable for you and your partner.
Manage your expectations:
If you didn't have sex very often as a younger adult, don't expect to have lots of sex as an older adult. Maybe you and your partner expressed your intimacy in other ways when you were younger - perhaps you preferred great conversation. If that's so, you'll most likely continue those activities as you age. Partners who enjoy frequent sex when they're younger are more likely to continue that as they age.