Women and Personal Pictures (Part II)
From Part I:
“…. .To men, it is all about size and beauty! Some of them won’t even talk to girls who have too small breasts or too large ones or whose butt is too wide or nose is too long ...so, if I have some of these imperfections but I know how to make love, and if I send a picture of a more personal nature, well..then maybe that will get someone interested in me enough to overlook what he might find unattractive.”
Sadly, there are more women than you might think who consciously or unconsciously, hold this thought.
There are a lot of wounded women in this world. Too many too count...though all count- they walk around looking like any other woman but they don’t feel like any other woman. They feel different inside. They feel separate from the rest.
The girls who listened to their siblings and classmates poke fun at them because they weren’t that pretty or they were too big or too small or not pretty enough; the girls who watched the prettier ones get love and attention given to them easily just because they were prettier; the girls who had a pretty sister and watched mom and dad fawn over her more; these and other scenarios not included here: these girls eventually grew up. And they grew up carrying feelings of such deep pain within them that once they hit adulthood, these feelings were as much a part of them as their hands and face are. No longer just words, over time they became absorbed: and everyone knows that once something is absorbed like that within the psyche, what was once perception often becomes perceived as fact. It doesn’t matter if what was said was twenty years ago: on a very deep level, it’s remembered.
What does this mean then? That all women who show and send photos of their most intimate body parts are lacking in some way emotionally? No. Many women just plain enjoy the exposure. That’s fine but it’s not these women I am concerning myself with here. The ones I care about are the ones who feel such a deep emptiness and scarring inside that they feel that they have to show that they are female, in the unspoken hope that that exposure will entice a man enough to possibly get to know her on a further and deeper basis.
I can’t possibly cover this very real topic in only a few words. But I can tell you that there is not a female on earth who wants to feel this way.
Being female is a very specific thing. If someone’s grown up feeling that she’s been dismissed or not recognized as not being female “enough”, it’s going to affect her deeply. Sometimes they can’t put their finger on what they are feeling but they know they don’t feel good. But they also know they have love to give. So they try what they’ve been lead to believe might work.