Saturday 4 July, 2009The Ease that Online Personal Sites Bring

When I finally made the choice to post a personal ad, I ran through a gamut of feelings that accompanied my decision. While awaiting my first email response from anyone, I felt all kinds of feelings: nervousness, anticipation, anxiety, excitement, a little fear of the unknown and wonder at the possibilities. These emotions tumbled around within me as I sat back and waited, a little in awe at my own daring. What would happen? Who would I meet? And most of all-what would I feel?

I was very fearful in the beginning and I struggled for a few months as I found my way to what was comfortable for me. I knew I wanted to experience something different in my life and I knew that I wanted to feel passion again; I also knew that whatever I chose to do and whomever I chose to do it with would have to be someone I felt pretty comfortable with. I didn’t want to add anxiety to my life in any way; I wanted to enhance my life from the point where it stood now.

This is where looking for a ‘partner’ on an online personal site can be of great value.

On an online site, you have more than one way of getting to know someone. You have the opportunity to converse through the written word and therefore you can take your time in responding and editing what you want to say before you send it back to them. Some people post pictures upon which you can go through and pick out or discard at your personal preference; pictures that include not only facial expressions but oftentimes, photos of a more personal nature.

It’s kind of helpful to know which people to respond to if you’re looking for specifics in body type or penis size. Why go through the whole barrel if the pickle you want is resting on top?

It takes courage to step out of one’s boundaries and limitations and we’ve all experienced that awkwardness of sitting across the table with a new person. If you’re lucky, you might hit it off with someone in a relatively short period of time. If you’re not, more dates until you do.

But with online personals, in many ways you are getting to the heart of things pretty quickly. It’s easier to say what you do and don’t think when you have the advantage of expressing yourself from behind a computer screen. If someone is not to your liking, you don’t have to sit through a whole evening with them: with one click and a short goodbye, off they go. You can be yourself in more ways in a shorter period of time, which makes when you finally do meet face to face, more exciting in some ways. There’s a sense of knowing something about one another beforehand that regular dating doesn’t offer and that’s a comfortable feeling.

If you haven’t already, give online personals a chance. You just might be surprised!